There are two different kinds of surrogacy, but all revolve around the same idea: a woman consents to a pregnancy wherein the baby, once born, will be given to other individuals who will raise the child. At Family Inceptions we facilitate gestational surrogacy, in which the surrogate is not the genetic mother of the child.
Carrying another person’s child is an enormous responsibility because you are carrying their hopes, dreams, and intended. Intended parents want somebody they can trust. As such, honesty, integrity, and good health are critical. Similar values and emotional compatibility are also important.
Family Inceptions pre-screens all potential gestational surrogates. The pre-screening tests include a criminal background check on you and your spouse/partner (if you have one), a psychological evaluation (to determine if your level of commitment to the surrogacy is sufficient to proceed), and a thorough review of your medical records. You will also undergo a medical examination that will involve screening both you and your spouse/partner for sexually transmitted diseases as well as a gynecological examination for you. It’s important to note that each clinic has its own individual protocols and medical screenings that it deems necessary.
The surrogacy journey timeframe varies—however, on average the length of time is approximately 16 to 18 months. When done correctly, this is a lengthy journey, so a deep commitment to the process is necessary. At times, you’ll be inconvenienced and be unable to do certain things that may take away from your own family.
Yes, you can. Since you are not using your eggs (genetic material) and will have to undergo in-vitro fertilization (IVF) to become pregnant, a woman who has had a tubal ligation can become a gestational surrogate mother.
Yes, however there are certain factors you need to consider, such as: will your OB be comfortable with managing a gestational surrogacy pregnancy? Does your OB accept your insurance plan?
Of note: you will be required to waive your HIPAA rights to the intended parents to ensure they are informed of how the pregnancy is moving along.
When you become a gestational surrogate you and the intended parents agree on a birth plan that covers where, when, and how the delivery will happen under ideal circumstances. Of course, babies do not always go along with the plan, so there might be last-minute changes when you deliver.
In order for you to become a gestational surrogate, your spouse must be in full support of your decision. He or she will be required to complete the medical and psychological screening, background check and sign the legal agreements.
No. Our agency deals only with gestational surrogacy and so you will not be genetically related to the child or children. As such, you would have no legal rights or responsibilities toward the child after it has been handed over to the intended parents. Before you begin the surrogacy journey, the intended parents are contractually obligated to specify what would happen to the child in the event of their demise, even though this is very rare in our experience. If that were to happen we would arrange an adoption to a loving family.
“Intended parents” or “future parents” are couples or individuals who would like to have children of their own but are unable to do so due to specific circumstances. For example, a woman may be infertile, or a same-sex couple might want children. In these situations, a gestational surrogate is an attractive option for creating a family.
If you have a medical health insurance policy, Family Inceptions will review it to see if it is appropriate for surrogacy. If it is not, the intended parents will pay for a policy. In addition, Family Inceptions also requires that the intended parents take out a life insurance policy on you with your family as the beneficiary along with other insurance policies that will benefit you.
No, you do not need health insurance to become a surrogate. We will find a medical plan for you that will be paid for by the intended parents on your behalf.
The level of involvement is entirely up to you and your intended parents. Most intended parents are eager to start a family and want to personally experience the surrogacy journey with you. We encourage intended parents to be involved because it is a unique and beautiful experience. However, if you would prefer less of a personal relationship with the parents, we will support your decision and help articulate that to the intended parents. The relationship you have is what you and your intended parents agree upon. We want to emphasize that you have a voice and we want you to feel comfortable in establishing how you would like your journey to be.
All intended parents are interviewed to assess their motivations, emotional state, and financial capability before we decide to proceed. The intended parents also go through an application process and a background check. And yes, you get to select the intended parents that you would like to work with as well. (All parties must agree to work with one another.)
For many the security of working with a surrogacy agency to handle all the details is beneficial. Working with an agency does not mean you lose the sense of closeness with your intended parents. In fact, our agency encourages open communication between the gestational surrogate and the intended parents. In addition, some people don’t like to discuss financial matters or various issues and like the fact they have an advocate to discuss hard to talk about matters on their behalf. You also have the peace of mind that your compensation benefits are funded into escrow and disbursed to you when it is due. No need to worry if you will receive your benefits or if expenses such as your medical bills will be covered or not. Family Inceptions takes that worry from you and replaces it with trust and security.
To begin with, you are not just a number to us. We are a boutique agency that offers a personalized approach to support you throughout the surrogacy process. A few other things to consider:
We would love to be your surrogacy agency for these and many other reasons.
This depends completely on what country you are in. In the United States the law varies according to the state. In Canada receiving compensation for surrogacy is wholly unlawful and is subject to stiff fines. Paid surrogacy is by no means a global phenomenon.
Family Inceptions works with an escrow company that maintains and distributes funds that are due to you directly. Intended parents will fund the escrow accounts and you will receive your payment based off the contractual obligation you and your intended parents agreed upon.
No, currently we do not provide 1099s. We do recommend you speak with a tax professional regarding your benefits as we are not tax professionals and cannot give you any tax advice.
No. Unfortunately you cannot be a surrogate if you have never given birth previously. This is because we require previous birthing records to assess how your past pregnancies proceeded. Further, it is best to already have a child of your own to really understand how will you cope with a pregnancy and a child that in the end you will not be able to keep.
Typically, you only have to travel to a clinic for your medical evaluations and for the transfer. This clinic can be located in the city nearest you. Any travels that are necessary for your surrogacy journey will be paid for by the intended parents.
Yes, you most certainly can become a gestational surrogate if you are single or divorced. If you are separated from your spouse and not legally divorced it is best to wait until you are, as there can sometimes be factors that could impact the surrogacy journey.
No. The intended parents pay for all legal counsel and any attorney fees involved in the drawing up of contracts etc.
There are several requirements for becoming a surrogate. Check out the Requirements page for a complete breakdown of the necessary criteria.